Hear My Voice

Experiences shared as stories

This is a place to share your voice, your story, and be heard. Our Wisdoms review stories, adjust our doctrine to best protect our members within this fourth space, and build a better fifth space (sanctuary). Stories here help see they are not alone.

Stories must be first person accounts that do not use names or they won’t be published. Wisdoms will not edit any story content.

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Stories that speak to 14. Scapegoating

Foundational Understanding

The Foundational Understanding

Aspirations

Less Suffering Wonder Grace

Tenets

Autonomy Xenia Repair and Our Path Forward Reciprocity The Rocking Chair Trauma Informed Behavior Power and Authority Education Attestation and Testimony

Condemnations

Crusades Oppression Slavery Exploitation Erasure Torture Knowledge Prevention Central Charismatic Cult Leadership Denial of Autonomy Religion as Ruling Divinity or Government System

Glossary of Potentially Harmful Behaviors

1. Learned helplessness 2. Self-silencing 3. Effort justification 4. Sunk cost 5. Moral licensing 6. Just-world thinking 7. Calling oneself finished 8. DARVO 9. Betrayal blindness 10. Intermittent reinforcement 11. Gaslighting 12. Foot in the door 13. The extracted apology 14. Scapegoating 15. Required confession 16. Pluralistic ignorance 17. Diffusion of responsibility 18. Co-rumination 19. Identity fusion 20. Trashing 21. The no structure tyranny 22. Purity spiral 23. Snitch-jacketing 24. Manufactured consensus 25. The litmus test 26. Milieu control 27. Loading the language 28. Sacred science 29. Mystical manipulation 30. Doctrine over person 31. Purity pledge 32. Deciding who counts 33. The inner teaching 34. The bottleneck co-opt 35. Commentary swallowing text 36. Thought policing 37. The permanent advisor 38. Spokesperson capture 39. Shunning 40. The total institution 41. Normalization of deviance 42. Institutional betrayal 43. Institutional DARVO 44. Shared betrayal blindness 45. Exit cost 46. Conditionality 47. Simony 48. Fusion of powers 49. Co-optation 50. State of exception 51. Stratification 52. The ledger 53. No door to knock on 54. Organizational silence 55. Urgency 56. Attrition 57. Funder capture 58. Securitization 59. Entryism 60. The permanent campaign 61. The Kafka trap 62. Motte and bailey 63. Bulverism 64. Thought-terminating cliché 65. Straw man 66. No true Scotsman 67. Isolated demand for rigor 68. Sealioning 69. Just asking questions 70. Gish gallop 71. Concern trolling 72. Loaded question 73. Nirvana fallacy 74. Moving the goalposts 75. False dilemma 76. Special pleading 77. Poisoning the well 78. Ad hominem 79. Genetic fallacy 80. Whataboutism 81. Appeal to nature 82. Name calling 83. Glittering generality 84. Transfer 85. Trick Testimonial 86. Plain folks 87. Card stacking 88. Euphemism 89. Bandwagon 90. Firehose of falsehood 91. Flooding the zone 92. Astroturfing 93. Dog whistle 94. The big lie 95. Overton window 96. Illusory truth effect

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